Because of two things:
- Wedding Anniversary
- Son’s Birthday
Both during September; both within a week of each other.
I think this has made the first few weeks of the separation harder. Having two important family celebrations so soon after the break-up was bound to make things awkward and more difficult than, say, if it had happened in June.
Not that I’m suggesting there’s ever a good time for a marriage to end… just that this
I think we’ve managed to do well though. Neither of us really mentioned the Anniversary, other than in a passing SMS. So the Anniversary didn’t turn into the problem I worried it would.
Thankfully that weekend I had something else to distract me anyway; all three kids stayed for Friday and Saturday nights with me. This in turn let me solve the tricky problem of the Birthday.
Essentially my son got 2 birthdays this year. He had his regular birthday with his Mum’s side of the family, and when he stayed with me he had his birthday with my side of the family. It wasn’t ideal, but it was the best we could really hope for at such short notice. Hopefully by this time next year we can sort out a better solution.
He also got a day-trip away to the aquarium with my Ex and I, so he could have some time with both his parents.
December is the next really awkward month. It’s the twin’s birthday, and then the big one… Christmas!